Author: asheleyfaris

Friday Favs: 07/20/18

“My Search for Sly Stone” – one man’s decade long journey to find the former front man of Sly and the Family Stone.   73 Questions with Saoirse Ronan – love her accent, her style, and her overall grounded approach to her work.   State Rep. Janelle Bynum was campaigning in a neighborhood in her district when a resident called the police on her—because she thought Bynum, a black woman, was “spending a lot of time at homes and appearing to be casing the neighborhood while on her phone.”  After the police were called Rep. Bynum highlighted the positive interaction she had with the deputy in her own situation (they event took a selfie together!) after which she started the hashtag #LetsBeBetterNeighbors, where she called for people to support and trust one another and declared her intention to continue coming up to their front steps.  Your challenge: Be A Better Neighbor.   10 Shoe Essentials that Always Have Your Back – and I love that she also provides her posts en espanol.

Friday Favorites: 07/06/18

Check out our Summer Classic Movies recs!   50 Positive Affirmations – for any time, for all time.   This piece by former “Great British Bake Off” contestant Ruby Tandoh on her struggles to become who she is in a world that wants her to be something else, and a lost moment with a friend who was told she was too provocative in her work.  Through the piece she rectifies her lost opportunity and ends in an act of solidarity: “You’ll always be a salty bitch,’ I should have said, ‘and that’s exactly why you matter. I’m a salty bitch, too. I’m so pleased we exist.’   Jonathan Van Ness started as my least favorite member of the Fab Five but the more I get to know about him the more I’m so happy he proved me wrong.  Between his hilarious work with Funny or Die on “Gay of Thrones” or his insightful podcast “Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness” he is clearly a multi-dimensional and talented person.  Excited about his next adventure!   Recently …

Must See Summer Classics

For me summer is all about block busters – films with grand film scores, giant monsters (literal and figurative), brilliant action sequences, and breakout performances.  I lean toward action and sci-fi genres because these genres often portray women as empowered or going through the journey toward empowerment.  In these genres women play with gender norms and often have more fully formed character arcs. “Jurassic Park” – the car scene with the night goggles?!  The velociraptor pack?!  Jeff Goldblum as a sex symbol?!!  Brilliant. “Raiders of the Lost Ark” “Star Wars” – the original trilogy were all released during the summer from 1977 – 1983.  I suggest hosting a marathon with friends ESPECIALLY friends who have never seen the original three (side note: HOW ARE THERE STILL PEOPLE WHO HAVE NEVER SEEN THE ORIGINAL THREE?!  And why would you call them friends?!) “Independence Day” – Will Smith’s debut as an action hero and again, Jeff freakin’ Goldblum “Terminator 2: Judgment Day” – Linda Hamilton’s portrayal of Sarah Conner emerging as a badass from the asylum is …

“Queer Eye” Makes Me Believe Again

The most positive, encouraging, and uplifting thing in this shit storm right now is the reboot of “Queer Eye.”  Chalk full of acceptance and personal growth, these five gay men guide a straight man in each episode to leveling up his grooming, style, culinary, home, and self-confidence game. This season all takes place in Georgia and I was curious to see how they dealt with different worldviews from more traditionally-minded folk.  I was pleasantly surprised to see wonderful exchanges on perspectives and respectful discourse on issues such as police brutality, gender norms in gay relationships, and religious intolerance of gay folks. While I might not agree with the perspectives shared, what I found most insightful was how they modeled engaging in a difficult dialogue.  So often (especially in the traditional South) people shy away from engaging in conversation on controversial topics such as the ones mentioned above.  The problem?  Avoidance creates ignorance.  While experiential learning feels gross, it is one of the best ways to transform the dysfunctional ways we see the world. Challenge: think …

Fast Fashion: Cladwell’s Shift

Now, truth is I find myself wanting to buy more clothes when I feel like my life and my body are out of control.  Between expenses piling up and binge eating it’s clear I’m  running away from the ick I feel.  In fact I caught myself last week cruising cheap clothes online to get my quick endorphin fix. And then, I remember Cladwell.  Cladwell’s mission is to reduce the number of clothes we have and beat perpetual fast fashion consuming our lives.  The encourage folks to have fewer, higher quality clothes.  They have this amazing app I use to get dressed. Yes, the app is $7.99/month but well worth it if it keeps you from buying more clothes.  They also have a blog offering styling help to get us thinking more creatively with what we already own. Listen here to founder Blake Smith’s vision on how to break our consumerism and feeding into the lie that we’re somehow incomplete.